How do I shift from control to trust?

September 26, 2017
Many of us like to be in control, we feel safer this way. Life feels less scary, more doable and easier to digest when we understand all of the elements and it’s moving past. The problem is, control is the greatest delusion we engage in. We do not really have control… You’ve probably heard that comment – “if you want to make God laugh tell Him your plans.” This is so true! Yet so many of us continue to reach for the unreachable, the perfection and try to control.
We try to control ourselves, other people, things and even events. All in the intent to make ourselves feel better and to help us to feel safer and secure. This fruitless exercise instead keeps us disconnected from ourselves and the truth that we are actually on track, exactly where we are meant to be.
The one constant we can rely on is change and most change that we resist is the change that we don’t have control of – how funny is that! When we make the decision to trust the journey and be at peace and work with the present moments we have the most control we can ever have.
The true power we have is to take action and make each moment in the present count. Even better is adopting the mindset that I am safe and secure in my journey exactly where I am. In every moment you are exactly where you are meant to be, otherwise your moment and circumstances would be different. Leaning into your circumstances and trusting in a bigger purpose and plan for your journey helps you to feel comforted in the now and worry less about the future.
Here are 3 ways to trust instead of revert back to needing control –
  1. Love all of your life – in every moment find the gratitude, be present and grateful for whatever shows up so that you enjoy your now and are not so desperate to create and reach for change.
  2. It’s bigger than you – when we step out of the ego and see that we are all one and equal we really step into a collaborative and community mindset. It’s not just about you, your needs and your ego. Look around you at how you re connected to others and how your life impacts and makes it’s imprint onto others. There is a big cosmic plan at play and it’s not for us to understand every part of it, but the life lesson is for us to step into it and trust it unconditionally.
  3. Call your fear out – fear makes you want to shift from your present into what you perceive to be safer or more desirable. We jump out of our present and desperately try to align our lives and control them to what we want as a way of feeling more productive and on task. Instead make the decision to call your fear out for what it is and see the part of you that wants to escape. Then make an empowered choice to stay grounded in the present and truth your flow.
We know it’s hard to trust at times, especially when things feel so far from what we desire or when bad things happen. But we know for sure that your life right now is teaching you to grow and learn and love in a greater way and trusting yourself and the universe is a greater way to feel connected to yourself, others and the journey…

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