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IS YOUR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT LOVING?

August 24, 2015
There is a difference between lovingly supporting you to grow and kicking your ass verses being confrontational and the growth being painful.
One of the reasons that my friendship with Ali blossomed was I reached out to gain support from her in a challenging time. I had invested money and time in a personal development coach who I was finding difficult to cope with. This coach was very confrontation, critical and constantly using aggression to try and push me outside of my comfort zone. After tolerating this coaching for a few months I finally cracked and confided in Ali about my experience and how I was lead to believe it was my resistance and sensitivity that was the issue.
Those that know me and those who have been following us for a while I am a straight shooter and that I am never one to shy away from personal work or confrontation but I was beginning to feel bullied by this coach.
After pulling this coaching apart with Ali over one of our walks around the lake Ali helped me to see that this behaviour from the coach was not about my resistance but really and truly unloving.
I have learnt a lot since stepping out of this coaching program about the need to be loving in all areas of business including personal development. Even my relationship with Ali, sometimes it is confrontational and we are forever holding each other accountable to excellence but it is ALWAYS on a foundation of love. What I have learnt through my experience is that you CANNOT grow when you do not feel loved and supported. It’s like trying to catch water in a net, it will not happen.
I encourage you to analyse where you are getting your personal development and coaching from and ensure that it is loving. Choose your coaches and mentors wisely and ensure they are a good fit and match for you to bring up and unpack your issues. I am all for transformation and growth but make sure the people you let in and challenge you are LOVING, in every way.
Nicole

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